October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.
The month we recognize the babies loved in our hearts, but not always held in our arms. The babies held in our arms, but then lost. The angels that were once with us, but now watch over us.
Today, October 15th, is our day, too, the mothers and the fathers, the extended family, who have all lost a baby.
Statistically, 1 in 4 women have lost a child, whether it be due to miscarriage, a stillbirth, or other circumstances beyond birth. That's a 25% chance that out of four women you know, one of them will be hyper aware of their loss today, or this month. One of them will be hurting, remembering the child they wanted so desperately to love and watch grow.
That one may be you. It could be your neighbor. Your mother, your sister, even your wife. If this is you - I am so sorry for your loss.
I am the 1 in 4. It doesn't take October for me to remember my angel, but the sentiment of remembrance is a nice one. It brings a time of reflection for me, and sometimes, I wonder - who would my baby have been? A girl? A boy? What would his/her temperament be? Their interests? I will never know, but I can dream for a little while as I recognize my child's life, even if it only existed briefly beneath my heart, and never in my arms.
If you know someone who is grieving a loss this month, light a candle. Say something nice. Follow their lead on talking about their child.
For the other 1 in 4 women and their families... I'll be thinking of you and your angels today. May your heart know peace.